Why Vague Relationship Advice Is Making Things Worse—And What to Do Instead

We Made It to Episode 50 (and Beyond)
Kicking off Season Two of Make More Love feels surreal. We've hit 50 episodes—and honestly, that milestone deserves a moment of reflection. If you’ve been with us for the journey, thank you. If you’re just joining us, welcome! You’re stepping into a space where high-performing men get real tools to build passionate, intimate, and resilient relationships—without sacrificing their ambition.

Now that we’re here at the big 5-0, I want to open Season Two by cutting through the noise. And there's a lot of noise, especially on social media, when it comes to relationships.

The Problem with Vague Relationship Advice

Not all relationship advice is created equal. Some of it is helpful. A lot of it? It’s vague, oversimplified, and sometimes just plain wrong. And thanks to algorithm rabbit holes, I’ve been drowning in it lately.

Let’s break down the three biggest offenders when it comes to bad relationship advice:

1. "Communication is Key"

It’s the relationship version of “eat healthy.” Sure, it sounds true—but what does it actually mean? Communicate what? How? With what tone? Toward what goal?

Real communication isn’t just about saying words—it’s about delivering the right message in a way your partner can hear, absorb, and respond to. For entrepreneurs and business leaders, it’s easy to default into tactical, detail-heavy talk that misses the emotional heartbeat of the conversation.

And that leads to big misses. Like sharing every detail of a business problem… but forgetting to mention the decision to buy a plant in another state. That’s not just an information gap—that’s a relationship fracture waiting to happen.

2. "Your Partner Should Always Come First"

Sounds romantic. Sounds noble. But in the real world? It's often impossible to live out—especially if you're building a business, leading a team, or juggling family responsibilities.

What matters more than the phrase is how you define what “putting your partner first” looks like. Is it dropping everything for every text? Or is it about making long-term decisions that reflect your shared values?

We can’t live in a Yellowstone fantasy where your partner calls and you ride off into the sunset every time. But we can build routines, signals, and conversations that make your partner feel prioritized—even when work demands a temporary front seat.

3. "Just Be Supportive"

This advice gets murky fast. Supportive how? Cheerleader? Fixer? Listener? Taking on more at home?

And for action-oriented partners, “just listen and don’t fix” can feel unnatural—even frustrating. That’s why clarity matters.

Next time, try asking:

• “Do you want a sounding board, or just need to vent?”

• “Would you like suggestions or just a safe space to share?”

These small distinctions turn vague expectations into real connection.

The Real Fix: Diagnose First

The truth is, most couples don’t need more advice. They need clarity. They need a diagnosis.

That’s why I created the Make More Love Relationship Dynamics Quiz—a 15-question tool that helps pinpoint where the breakdown is happening and what to do about it. It’s fast, private, and (for now) totally free.

📍Take the quiz now at makemorelove.show/quiz

It’s like plugging your relationship into a diagnostic tool instead of guessing what the blinking “check engine” light is all about.

TL;DR: Here’s What Matters

• Vague advice keeps you stuck. Clarity gets you unstuck.

• Communicate in context, not just volume.

• Define what “support” and “priority” look like with your partner.

• Stop guessing. Start diagnosing.

If this episode got you thinking, I’d love to hear from you. DM me on socials, shoot me an email at ellen@passionatepartnersproject.com, or join the Passionate Partners Insider Community on Facebook.

And if you’re ready to make real progress, book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com.

Let’s build relationships that last—and love that gets stronger, not smaller.

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