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April 17, 2025

51: Celebrating 50 Episodes and Answering Listeners' Relationship Questions

Today, we’re answering real listeners’ real questions—in real time. These aren’t hypotheticals. These are the exact moments real men are living through right now. From growing resentment during the grind of entrepreneurship, to being blindsided by a breakup, to feeling stuck in a sexless marriage—these stories are raw, honest, and painfully common. This episode offers direct insight and powerful next steps for three of the most frequent and emotionally charged issues I hear from high-performing...
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April 10, 2025

50: Love, Money, and Self-Knowledge in Relationships — with Manny Wolfe (part 2)

In the second part of this deeply personal interview, Ellen breaks down the real-life lessons behind Manny Wolfe’s extraordinary story — from surviving a cult to confronting addiction and rebuilding his life. But this episode isn’t just about extreme experiences. If you're a business owner/entrepreneur trying to understand the connections between love, money, and self-knowledge, this episode will speak directly to your experience. Ellen draws a direct line from Manny’s journey to the everyday...
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April 3, 2025

49: Endless Loops: When Your Relationship Feels Like Groundhog Day (with Manny Wolfe – Part 1)

In this first part of a two-part conversation, Ellen Dorian sits down with speaker, author, and coach Manny Wolfe to explore how early life experiences, unresolved trauma, and subconscious patterns can trap us in relationship dynamics that feel like endless loops. From cult survival to addiction recovery, Manny brings raw honesty and deeply reflective insight into how our past silently shapes our present — especially in love. This episode offers a candid look at how personal responsibility, e...
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March 27, 2025

48: When the Going Gets Tough-The Tough Go on Vacation

Summary Part 1: Why Vacations Matter Ellen shares why vacations aren’t just for rest—they’re essential to creative thinking, leadership clarity, and strong relationships. She explains how time away creates space for emotional reset, presence, and reconnection with your partner (and yourself). Part 2: Business, Boundaries, and Burnout A reality check for entrepreneurs: If your business can’t run without you, it’s not scalable—or healthy. Ellen explains why systems, delegation, and leadershi...
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March 20, 2025

47: Stop Searching for Happiness & Start Making It: Five No-BS Strategies

SUMMARY: In this final episode of the happiness series, Ellen Dorian brings everything together—why happiness matters, what gets in the way, and most importantly, how to actually build it. This episode is divided into three key parts: A review of the series—Happiness in relationships, the barriers men face, busting the Happy Wife, Happy Life myth, and introducing the Relationship Energy Spectrum An update on the Relationship Energy Spectrum.—How happiness, engagement, challenge and skills al...
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March 13, 2025

46: Happiness or Resentment: What’s Fueling Your Relationship?

In this episode of Make More Love, Ellen Dorian introduces the Relationship Energy Spectrum and shows how your emotional state shapes the quality of your relationship. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right” but still feel disconnected, this episode will help you identify the key obstacles to happiness and show you how to shift your energy to create a stronger, more fulfilling relationship. Part 1: Why Happiness is a Relationship Force The Relationship Multiplier Effect: Hap...
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March 6, 2025

45: The Truth About Happiness in Relationships

In this episode of Make More Love, Ellen kicks off a new series on happiness—what it actually is, why it matters, and how it plays into having a fulfilling, passionate relationship. She tackles one of the biggest myths in relationships: "Happy Wife, Happy Life." What’s the real truth about happiness in relationships? Ellen introduces the Relationship Multiplier Effect, explaining why happier men tend to have happier wives. She shares client stories, expert insights, and real strategies for...
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Feb. 27, 2025

44: Date Nights: Understanding the Assignment!

Date night should be something you both look forward to—not a routine obligation that fizzles out over time. In this episode, we revisit the best strategies for making date night exciting, meaningful, and passion-fueled. Learn how to break out of the "dinner and a movie" rut, create unforgettable experiences, and make date nights work for your relationship dynamic. If you’re ready to level up your date nights and reignite that spark, this episode is for you! Part 1: Why Most Date Nights Fa...
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Feb. 21, 2025

43: Seriously? How to Bring Back the Fun in Your Relationship

Marriage is already an absurd idea when you think about it—so why do we get so serious about keeping it running smoothly? In this episode, Ellen introduces the Absurdity Principle of Relationship Growth and dives into three ways to inject more fun into your relationship. If your relationship feels routine, predictable, or just too serious, these approaches will break you out of your comfort zone, increase connection, and make your relationship more exciting again. Part 1: The Absurdity of Rel...
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Feb. 13, 2025

42: Stuck in the Doghouse? Here’s How to Get Out—and Stay Out

SUMMARY: If you didn't listen to last week's Valentine’s Day Special—or you listened but didn’t take action—there’s a chance you’re going to be in the doghouse. And if that’s the case, you’re going to need a plan to get out. In this episode, Ellen breaks down what the doghouse really is (hint: it’s not just about being in trouble), why it happens, how to recognize the warning signs, and, most importantly, how to get out and stay out—for good. You’ll meet Bill, a VIP client who found himsel...
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Feb. 6, 2025

41: Valentine’s Day—Hallmark Holiday or Passionate Power Play

In this Valentine’s Day special episode, Ellen Dorian dives into the history, meaning, and modern-day pressures of the holiday. Whether listeners are diehard romantics or Valentine’s Day cynics, Ellen provides practical advice and creative ideas to help them plan a day that fits their relationship. From understanding their partner’s expectations to avoiding last-minute stress, this episode is packed with insights to make Valentine's Day a meaningful and stress-free experience. Part 1: Underst...
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Jan. 30, 2025

40: Can a Couple Stay Together When They Want Different Things Out of Life?

In the final episode of our Avoiding Divorce series, Ellen explores what happens when couples no longer want the same things in life. She breaks down the three main reasons this misalignment occurs, the emotional dynamics that make it worse, and the three principles to help get your relationship back on track. This is about rediscovering or even defining, for the first time, a shared vision for your future—one that keeps you and your partner aligned, connected, and moving forward together. Pa...
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Jan. 23, 2025

39: The S*H*I*T Model: A Plan for Moving Beyond Betrayal

In this episode of Make More Love, Ellen Dorian explores the impact of betrayal on relationships and how it undermines trust, presence, and purpose—the key drivers of a passionate partnership. Ellen introduces the S*H*I*T Model, a practical framework designed to help listeners process betrayal, rebuild trust, and move forward, whether that means repairing the relationship or deciding to let it go. Part 1: Betrayals vs. Disappointments The difference between disappointments and betrayals: Dis...
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Jan. 16, 2025

38: The Other Four Horsemen: Hidden Relationship Dynamics That Kill Desire (Avoiding Divorce Series, Part 2 of 4)

Summary: Welcome to part two of our series on Divorce Season and how to avoid it. January is often called "divorce season," and we’re dedicating this month to helping you avoid becoming a statistic. In this episode, we tackle a crucial aspect of maintaining a thriving relationship: passion. We’ll explore the "Other Four Horsemen" that quietly erode intimacy and connection in relationships and, most importantly, how to overcome them. These hidden dynamics—Neediness, Childlike Behavior, Apathy, an...
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Jan. 9, 2025

37: Will January Be Your Relationship Wake-Up Call?

In this episode of The Make More Love Show, Ellen explores why January is often called "Divorce Season" and reframes it as the perfect time for a Relationship Wake-Up Call. She introduces the concept of the "Recommitment Season" and explores the reasons why this time of year is critical for relationships. Ellen discusses the warning signs of relationship trouble, the costs of divorce, and how gaining clarity can empower you to take control of your future. Part 1: Why January Is Known as Divorce...
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Dec. 26, 2024

36: Holiday Episode: The Spirit of Generosity in Relationships

In this special holiday episode, Ellen Dorian reflects on the Spirit of Generosity, a concept she learned from her father and continues to embody in her coaching. Through heartfelt storytelling, she introduces the five aspects of generosity—emotional, relational, philosophical, action-oriented, and legacy-focused—and shares actionable ways to bring these into your relationships. This episode is a guide to creating deeper connections, fostering trust, and leaving a meaningful legacy for your love...
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Dec. 19, 2024

35: How to Give Your Partner a Gift Card Without Hurting Your Relationship

[SUMMARY] Gift-giving during the holidays or special occasions can be a minefield, especially when it comes to significant others. This week, Ellen dives into a common mistake many partners make: giving a gift card without much thought—and how it can unintentionally hurt your relationship. She shares a real-life story from a client and offers practical, step-by-step advice on how to turn even a gift card into a meaningful experience that shows your partner how much you care. Part 1: Why Gift-...
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Dec. 12, 2024

34: How to Handle When Things Go South

[In this off-the-cuff episode, Ellen Dorian shares candid thoughts on handling frustrations and setbacks when things don’t go as planned. Using her own tech issues as an example, Ellen explores how to manage stress and prevent it from negatively impacting your relationships. She dives into three common problems and offers five actionable principles for maintaining emotional control and resilience during challenging times. Part 1: Understanding the Impact of Frustration How work frustratio...
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Dec. 5, 2024

33: Silence, Anger & Desire: Emotional Patterns that Can Undermine Your Relationship—With Performance Coach Kylie Ryan

In this episode, Ellen sits down with the dynamic Kylie Ryan, a performance coach specializing in helping entrepreneurs unlock their potential by tackling emotional and mental roadblocks. Together, they dive into a range of provocative topics, from emotional intelligence and societal conditioning to rage and relationships. This conversation is packed with insights on how to better understand and express emotions, fostering stronger connections in both personal and professional spheres. Part 1...
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Nov. 28, 2024

32: How to Avoid Fighting with Your Partner Over the Holidays

The holidays can be a time of joy, but they can also be a time of stress—especially for couples. In this episode, Ellen shares why holiday conflicts happen, the hidden risks that can quietly undermine your relationship, and 5 practical strategies you can use to avoid fighting and stay connected with your partner during this busy season. Whether it’s money stress, family drama, or unmet expectations, you’ll walk away with tools to navigate the holidays with more peace and connection. Part 1: T...
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Nov. 21, 2024

31: How to Handle Relationship Obligations You'd Rather Skip

Do you dread holiday gatherings, family drama, or other obligations that test your patience? What if these dreaded moments could actually strengthen your relationship? In this episode, we’re exploring the relationship challenges tied to obligations—those moments when you’d rather be anywhere else but are expected to show up. We discuss why honoring these commitments matters, how avoidance strategies harm your relationship, and ways to turn these dreaded events into opportunities for deeper co...
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Nov. 7, 2024

30: Compartmentalizing Your Life is Hurting Your Relationship – Here’s the Fix

In this episode of "Make More Love," host Ellen Dorian challenges the traditional notion of work-life balance and the disadvantages of compartmentalization, advocating instead for work-life integration. She shares five key principles to help entrepreneurial men harmonize their business ambitions with personal relationships, ensuring a fulfilling life both at work and at home. Part 1: Rethinking Work-Life Balance Ellen critiques the outdated concept of work-life balance, highlighting its ineff...
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Oct. 31, 2024

29: Ask Your Doctor If You're Healthy Enough: The Role of Personal Vitality in Your Relationship

In this episode of "Make More Love," host Ellen Dorian explores the critical topic of vitality for entrepreneurial men. She discusses the impact of vitality on relationships and business success, offering practical advice to enhance physical and mental health. Ellen shares a client's journey to reclaim vitality and provides actionable steps for listeners to improve their well-being. Part 1: Understanding Vitality Ellen introduces the concept of vitality, emphasizing its importance for physica...
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Oct. 24, 2024

28: You've Tried Everything: Why Your Relationship Fixes Haven't Worked

In this episode of "Make More Love," host Ellen Dorian explores the challenges entrepreneurial men face in balancing business success with maintaining a passionate and fulfilling relationship. Ellen discusses the common pitfalls of trying to reignite intimacy and offers actionable strategies to overcome these obstacles. She emphasizes the importance of understanding love languages and aligning efforts with genuine motivations to foster deeper connections. Part 1: The "Trying Everything" Trap ...